Do you know someone that has been abused?

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By annb106

Be the uplifter of ones' heart

 

Do you know someone that has been abused”?

Do you know of someone that has, or is being abused? How are they?  There are many things that we can do and say to give them hope for a brighter day. No one knows how it truly feels to have to deal with abuse unless they have walked a mile or two in their shoes. You may be standing on the outside looking in but, you have no clue or inkling just what that person that is being abused really feels. It’s easy to say what they should or shouldn’t do if it is not you. The one thing that you can do to really touch their heart is to pray for them, not be so quick to be judgmental. If you were in their shoes you may very well find yourself doing the same thing that they are, or worse. You can find kind ways to give them a little hope, even if there seems to be no sign of hope. Remind them that God is the author and the finisher and he want allow it to go on forever. You have to let them know that they are special and that you love them in spite of what they may be going through or allowing for the time being.

            I was in and out of abusive relationships (with boyfriends) for about twenty five years of my life. I found myself in each of these relationships and I stayed trying to make it work. I did what ever I could to try to make it better. I know about all of those cold harsh words that would almost drain the life out of you. How those words would cut and slice you like a two-edged sword, in spite of it I stayed trying to find a way to make the situation change. The thought of being told that no one would want you but for one thing, that really put the icing on the cake. Anyone in their right mind would have known that they were there too only for that one thing. They would have packed their bags and never looked back. I can only say that I wasn’t in my right mind either.  There is hope for you if you don’t give up or in. It took me all of those years of being treated like dirt, to realize that, that wasn’t the lifestyle that I wanted for myself and so I walked. Being abused doesn’t mean that you have to give up on your hopes and dreams, no matter how bad the situation looks or seems. There was no one there to encourage me when I was going through the hurt and pain. I decided to use my trials through the help of God to be a blessing of others that have, or maybe dealing with abuse. I want to be an up lifter of their hearts. I wrote the following words to encourage the hearts of women that have had to deal with abuse. Books written to be a blessing to abused women, “The Lives of Abused and Battered Women” and Heart-Boosting Poetry” sold at: http://www.amazon.com,   http://www.barnes&noble.com, and http://www.buybooksontheweb.com

Enthusiastic Woman you are

Extremely radiant and well put together.

Never give up on your hopes and dreams.

Trust in your self worth.

Have faith as small as a grain of mustard seed.

Unique work of art from start to finish, “Youare.

 Strive to reach the mark of your high calling of God.

I see royalty in “You”.

Aspiring woman you are”

Simply Beautiful and Magnificent,You” are.

Take the time out to see the self worth in you.

I pray favor and blessings over your live.

Caress your heart, no one can love you, like you.

Barbara

Comments

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creativeone59 Level 4 Commenter 2 years ago

Thank you for a great hub with great advice. Thanks for sharing Barbara. Godspeed. creativeone59

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fastfreta Level 5 Commenter 2 years ago

Annb, this is actually very good, and so true. I agree, no one really knows what they will do in any given circumstance, even if they've had the same situation before, things change and outcome could be different. So as you said we should not judge how anyone acts in this case.

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annb106 Hub Author 19 months ago

Thank you all for the words of encouragement. It is not to hurt anyone or to knock anyone down. I poured my life and hurt out to be a blessing to others. I know that my situation may not have been the same as others but I was abused also and, if I tell it my way it is my life and heart that I'm putting out there. People want you to give them all sorts of information as to all of the do's and don'ts, sometimes we have to learn to do somethings for ourselves. It seems that it's never enough and then they want more or insult you because you gave them a little help. It is all given on a silver platter, they have to decide to take it. It is a shame when an abused woman gets insulted by another women whether abused or not for telling your story your way. I refuse to let it stop me because it is just that "My Story" and, if anyone want's it told a certian way they should do it themselves and not try to knock anyone else down.

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